Worth More than the Perfect Honeymoon

One of my most romantic memories was on our honeymoon in Kauai. Mike had planned a road trip to a certain spot on the island that was filled with waterfalls. He was giddy about it. But a couple hours into our drive, pain escalated for me. (I later found out I had a decayed wisdomContinue reading “Worth More than the Perfect Honeymoon”

Friendships in Conflict

We are not our best selves right now. We are navigating a pandemic, anticipating an election, living in isolation, learning to do everything online…anxiety is skyrocketing. If you find yourself a little more short-tempered, annoyed, defensive, avoidant, or paranoid in your friendships, it’s not surprising. Conflict is to be expected. We are experts in conflictContinue reading “Friendships in Conflict”

Healthy Habits for Social Media

I love social media. It’s a great tool to connect, create, learn, mobilize, and to enjoy beautiful things. But it also causes anxiety if not used well. Fifteen hundred years ago a group of monastic Christian mystics created the concept of a “rule of life,” or commitments to ways of living. Here is my currentContinue reading “Healthy Habits for Social Media”

A Prayer for Lingering in Racial Discomfort

“The key to moving forward is what we do with our discomfort.” Robin Diangelo, in “White Fragility” (Loc. 442). In my last post, I talked about doing inner work with Jesus in order to overcome white fragility and be catalyzed into action. Here is one other tool for deepening our prayer lives with Jesus inContinue reading “A Prayer for Lingering in Racial Discomfort”

3 things we need from Jesus to overcome white fragility

The pursuit of racial justice requires selflessness. Following in the way of Jesus means amplifying the voices of Black people and choosing to receive correction with humility and responsiveness. But this is impossible to do when the voices of shame and fear inside of us are screaming to be heard. Instead of leading out ofContinue reading “3 things we need from Jesus to overcome white fragility”

How do you process a lynching?

Ahmaud Arbery. Breonna Taylor. George Floyd. Countless others. We are watching modern day lynchings on viral video at a rapid pace. How do you process this? As a white person, here are a few (not all-inclusive) ideas that have helped me to process: 1. Connect with real friends.  Instagram will never take the place ofContinue reading “How do you process a lynching?”